This statement will evolve and change overtime as we learn more on this journey.
Creating Safe(r) Space at Kindle Cascadia
Safe(r) spaces are a visible presence of allies that can help to shape a culture that is accepting of all people, regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity/ expression, or any other difference.
We choose to say “Safer” Space rather than “safe space” because we acknowledge that no space is entirely “safe” for everyone.
We believe that Safe(r) Spaces are inviting, engaging, and supportive environments in which all people feel comfortable behaving genuinely. It is important that Kindle Cascadia organizers, volunteers, and participants listen carefully to raised experiences and act on what they hear.
Participants have different communication styles, personalities and opinions, and come from diverse gender, racial, ethnic and socio-economic backgrounds. In order to foster this kind of temporary community space, people must respect others and actively look out for the well being of all those attending this gathering. Supporting the most vulnerable members of our community is one of our goals. This is why we define safe(r) space as a space that is encouraging for people who have been made uncomfortable at other events due to racism, sexism, physical and sexual assault, etc.
Kindle Cascadia strives to allow participants to learn new things at their own pace. We also provide a Quiet Room for volunteers and participants to use when they need some quiet time to process or rest.
Consent is essential to Safe(r) Space. Consent is two (or more) people deciding together to do the same thing, at the same time, in the same way with each other- whether its physical, verbal, or sexual. It is the presence of a “yes”, not the absence of a “no.” For the duration of the gathering, consent is defined as a clearly asked question followed by a clearly stated “yes.”
Tips for Creating Safe(r) Space at Kindle Cascadia
1. Respect your own physical, mental and emotional boundaries.
– Stay attuned to your own needs
– Feel free to leave workshops at any time, for any reason
– If something doesn’t feel right to you, please speak up. You may not be the only one who feels that way.
-If you don’t want to talk or answer a question, say so. Don’t wait for someone to “get the hint.” Try to vocalize what you need.
– Be assertive if possible. Speak to the person you have a concern with and be direct. If you need help negotiating a situation, find a Mediation Supporter to assist you.
2. Respect others’ physical, mental and emotional boundaries.
– Always ask for explicit verbal consent before engaging or touching someone. Never assume consent.
– Don’t assume the race, sexuality, gender, history with violence etc. of others. Instead, ask if someone is open to engaging in dialogue about identity. Don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t want to answer a question. Try asking a Mediation Supporter instead.
– This gathering is a place where everyone should feel empowered to choose their own gender. If at all possible, find out what pronouns people prefer or use neutral pronouns such as ‘they’ or ‘zie’. It is also important to separate terms for peoples’ anatomy from their gender. We’re born with our anatomy but we get to choose our genders. If you happen to screw up, correct yourself.
– Respect the confidentiality of others. You are welcome to share what you learned at the gathering, but not names or identifying details of other gathering convergence participants
3. Kindle Cascadia is a cooperative learning environment
– We are all here to learn, and we all have something to offer
– Clarifying questions are encouraged
– Respect diverse opinions, beliefs, and points of view. Share ideas rather than judgments. Use ‘I’ statements as much as possible to state your reactions or your experiences.
– There is no such thing as totally Safe Space. In attending Kindle Cascadia you are taking a risk in order to learn. You may find yourself outside your comfort zone.
– Assume positive intent
– Everyone (including you) will make unintentional mistakes
– Be aware of the effects your behavior has on others and accept responsibility for it.
– Expect to be confronted by others if you make a mistake, make efforts to step back, listen and learn from those with different experiences from your own
Creating Safe(r) Space requires active community feedback. Gathering feedback and putting it into action allows us to continue to improve as Safe(r) Space providers. Please feel free to talk with Kindle Cascadia organizers about anything concerning Safe(r) Space.
Thank you to TWAC Eugene (Trans and Women’s Action Camp) for putting together the majority of this writing that we adapted for Kindle Cascadia.